“But because you’re afraid it’s already too late to fix what you missed,” reads like poetry. I’ve only been diagnosed for a year or so at 25. Still difficult to put many things I’ve experienced throughout my life into words. I never realized how much ADHD shaped so many parts of my life, even before I knew I had a disability.
Thank you Russell, the feelings are pretty much the same here, the only difference is that I was days from completing 43 when I got the dx. Note that even though ADHD affects some structures that are associated with the ideas of 'ability' and 'action', the word 'disability' has been discouraged to be used regarding ADHD, because it implies that the obstacles to be overcome are impossible, and that's never the truth because even though we need some adaptation, there's no restriction to our dreams!
I agree with that. I can be more careful using, “disability” in ADHD spaces, I don’t mean to discourage other brains, but it is difficult for me to get anyone around me to take ADHD seriously without using the word. I suppose it comes down to personal philosophy and stigma too. Losing a limb makes you disabled, but it doesn’t have to be a limiter if you have the right prosthesis and support structure. That is to say, I personally find the descriptor more accurate and makes it easier to communicate with others who don’t share in the experience. I just see strategies and medication as a form of prosthesis in that analogy, but I can see why and how that wouldn’t be something people would feel is discouraging. Thank you for the insight. 😅
The shame for being a failure who doesn’t get things done even tough I‘m giving everything to the point of complete exhaustion. The guilt of trying to say something but realizing it doesn’t come across and it‘s like I‘m speaking a foreign language.
I feel for everyone of us who went through life thinking we were a burden and not worthy of a good life before we got diagnosed. But we made it thanks to our tenacity and grit.
“But because you’re afraid it’s already too late to fix what you missed,” reads like poetry. I’ve only been diagnosed for a year or so at 25. Still difficult to put many things I’ve experienced throughout my life into words. I never realized how much ADHD shaped so many parts of my life, even before I knew I had a disability.
Thank you Russell, the feelings are pretty much the same here, the only difference is that I was days from completing 43 when I got the dx. Note that even though ADHD affects some structures that are associated with the ideas of 'ability' and 'action', the word 'disability' has been discouraged to be used regarding ADHD, because it implies that the obstacles to be overcome are impossible, and that's never the truth because even though we need some adaptation, there's no restriction to our dreams!
I agree with that. I can be more careful using, “disability” in ADHD spaces, I don’t mean to discourage other brains, but it is difficult for me to get anyone around me to take ADHD seriously without using the word. I suppose it comes down to personal philosophy and stigma too. Losing a limb makes you disabled, but it doesn’t have to be a limiter if you have the right prosthesis and support structure. That is to say, I personally find the descriptor more accurate and makes it easier to communicate with others who don’t share in the experience. I just see strategies and medication as a form of prosthesis in that analogy, but I can see why and how that wouldn’t be something people would feel is discouraging. Thank you for the insight. 😅
Speaking to my heart. I change myself now so my daughter has less work to do in her time. Glass box be damned.
That was so nice to hear Amy, you daughter is definitely lucky to have you as mom! 💚
Thank you, Russell. I am aboit to take a break from my career so I can actually forgive this all out.
The shame for being a failure who doesn’t get things done even tough I‘m giving everything to the point of complete exhaustion. The guilt of trying to say something but realizing it doesn’t come across and it‘s like I‘m speaking a foreign language.
I feel for everyone of us who went through life thinking we were a burden and not worthy of a good life before we got diagnosed. But we made it thanks to our tenacity and grit.
Now we get to deconstruct, one day at a time.
I fail to do something. Then I beat myself up about it and avoid taking steps to fix or amend the failure. Which I then beat myself up for.